“Unless you choose to do great things with it, it makes no difference how much you are rewarded, or how much power you have.” –Oprah Winfrey
I’ve always known myself to be normal and so have many other people. Most of you have lived your lives making sure you’re normal, always in the comfort zone. We want the society to accept us and love us for abiding by it’s rules.
Then one day you change. You become yourself. You’re daring and unafraid and the world notices this immediately. You are bombarded with questions and dissapointed heads shake. “You were so different, what happened to you?”. They don’t notice it’s who you are, who you’ve always been.
When this happens you become so overwhelmed that you want to go back to how it was before, Normal but its too late the damage is already done. You can’t go back you won’t move forward.
Today though, I dare you to be great as cliche as it sounds. Write on a controversial topic. Try something new. Sing like you’ve never sang before, be charitable and visit the needy. Pick your stand and defend it, debate it and stand by it. And when the world accuses you, look them in the eye and say ‘So what if I’m different! ‘.
I want you to know that I am a feminist and I am not ashamed of it.
Over the last few months and just before the new year, a few of my friends were concerned over the fact that I put over highly feminist photos in my whats app profile picture. That my statuses in the social media attacked them. They believe that a woman has been empowered and therefore they see no need in me vocalizing such concerns in such a country. So I tried to defend my actions and really try to indulge them and explain that feminism isn’t just about the women. It is about equality for all.
So I looked up to Chimamamnda Ngozi Adichie, whose views are as great as she is.
And while I really relate to Chimamanda’s story being a young African Woman, I believe that the society and world at large are just ignorant of these things. Recently I was watching one of a Fox series movie called Pitch. In that particular episode the main character a young woman who plays among men in a baseball team, is ambushed by people who accuse her for entering the wrong changing room when she almost gets raped. What she said later was even greater and I paraphrase, “People should realize that what is dangerous isn’t entering the wrong locker room but the fact that people don’t seem to understand that it is wrong to rape”.
My point exactly is that the world has put beliefs for lack of a better world and have bound them to boys and girls, men and women. That there is a way women and men are supposed to behave and if not we are faced by the society’s wrath. We as beings that differentiate wrong from right should be able to understand that it is wrong to justify our actions because the other party is bound by a certain set of barbaric rules.
I am not sorry for bashing the society that has its foundations on sinking sand. In fact I invite you all to be feminists. I encourage you to believe that our minds are unbound and our spirits are free. Let’s shine together Birdy.